In order to form a personal relationship with God,
you must know three things:

1) Who we are:

God’s creation.   God created us and built us for a relationship with him.  We belong to him, and we owe him gratitude for every breath, every moment, everything.  Because humans were built to live for him (to worship), we will always try to worship something – if not God, we will choose some other object of ultimate devotion to give our lives meaning.  

Sinners.  We have all chosen (and re-affirm daily) to reject God and to make our own joy and happiness our highest priority.  We do not want to worship God and surrender ourself as master, yet we are built to worship, so we cling to idols, centering our lives on things that promise to give us meaning:  success, relationships, influence, love, comfort, and so on.  

In spiritual bondage.  To live for anything else but God leads to breakdown and decay.  When a fish leaves the water, which he was built for, he is not free, but dead.  Worshiping other things besides God leads to a loss of meaning.  If we achieve these things, they cannot deliver satisfaction, because they were never meant to be “gods.”  They were never meant to replace God.  Worshiping other things besides God also leads to self-image problems.  We end up defining ourselves in terms of our achievement in these things.  We must have them or all is lost; so they drive us to work too hard, or they fill us with terror if they are jeopardized.

2) Who God is:

Love and justice.  His active concern is for our joy and well-being.  Most people love those who love them, yet God loves and seeks the good even of people who are his enemies.  But because God is good and loving, he cannot tolerate evil.  The opposite of love is not anger, but indifference. “The more you love your son, the more you hate in him the liar, the drunkard, the traitor,” (E. Gifford).  To imagine God’s situation, imagine a judge who also is a father, who sits at the trial of his guilty son.  A judge knows he cannot let his son go, for without justice no society can survive.  How much less can a loving God merely ignore or suspend justice for us—who are loved, yet guilty of rebellion against his loving authority?  

Jesus Christ.  Jesus is God himself come to Earth.  He first lived a perfect life, loving God with all his heart, soul, and mind, fulfilling all human obligation to God.  He lived the life you owed—a perfect record.  Then, instead of receiving his deserved reward (eternal life), Jesus gave his life as a sacrifice for our sins, taking the punishment and death each of us owed.  When we believe in him: 1) our sins are paid for by his death, and 2) his perfect life record is transferred to our account.  So God accepts and regards us as if we have done all Christ has done.

3) What you must do:

Repent.  There first must be an admission that you have been living as your own master, worshipping the wrong things, violating God’s loving laws. “Repentance” means you ask forgiveness and turn from that stance with a willingness to live for and center on him.

Believe.  Faith is transferring your trust from your own efforts to the efforts of Christ.  You were relying on other things to make you acceptable, but now you consciously begin relying on what Jesus did for your acceptance with God.  All you need is nothing.  If you think, “God owes me something for all my efforts,” you are still on the outside. 

Pray after this fashion: “I see I am more flawed and sinful than I ever dared believe, but that I am even more loved and accepted than I ever dared hope.  I turn from my old life of living for myself.  I have nothing in my record to merit your approval, but I now rest in what Jesus did and ask to be accepted into God’s family for his sake.”

When you make this transaction, two things happen at once: 1) your accounts are cleared, your sins are wiped out permanently, you are adopted legally into God’s family and 2) the Holy Spirit enters your heart and begins to change you into the character of Jesus.   Follow through.  Tell a Christian friend about your commitment.  Get yourself training in the basic Christian disciplines of prayer, worship, Bible study, and fellowship with other Christians.